Most of us pray for our kids on a regular basis, or at least when things are dire and we are begging for God’s divine intervention. Truth is, we should be praying for our kids daily, multiple times a day. There is nothing greater you can give your children than to pray for them daily. The power of prayer is phenomenal. James 5:16 says “The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” Friends, if you aren’t praying for your kiddos regularly, stop reading this and get on your knees right now! I’m not joking, put your phone/laptop/tablet away and enter in a spirit of prayer over your children. Whatever comes to mind is what you need to offer up to God. Be honest and open, the Lord wants to hear your heart. In fact, God doesn’t want to hear a uniformed prayer that just sounds good, He wants to hear YOU. Matthew 6:7-8 says “And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, they think that they will be heard for their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.” So, go ahead and just pray.
Did you know that some things cannot even be solved/fixed/addressed without prayer? In Mark 9, there is an account of Jesus healing a boy with an unclean spirit. Jesus says after healing him in verse 29 “This cannot be driven out by anything but prayer.” Prayer is a necessary tool we absolutely must be using.
Aside from the many things I pray for my children concerning their everyday lives like habits, hobbies, health and joy, I am learning to pray around my children in their circumstances. Praying around your child is praying for the things that influence them, not just them. Here are some ways you can pray around your child:
- Yourself (and your spouse)
While prayer changes things, we often don’t realize how much prayer changes us. We can pray for our kids by asking God to change our hearts and minds to wisdom on behalf of our kids. We should be praying for wisdom in all aspects of our life and the coolest thing is that God won’t stop giving you wisdom. James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given to him.” This means God has an endless, generous supply of wisdom and you can tap into that by simply asking. No strings attached. Pray for wisdom to understand, help and teach your child. Pray for wisdom when your child asks you things you can’t fully answer or know how to answer. I pray for this in advance, so when the time comes, I know God has my back.
- Their siblings
My girls are young still, and with that comes a fair share of fighting, tattling and irritation with each other. They play well together at times too, but they can’t pick their siblings! It can be a tough relationship to blossom when the age gap and their interests differ. Pray for your other children on behalf of each other. I hope one day my girls will become best friends into their adult lives. I pray now that God will instill memories and goodness toward each other that will be the building blocks of that strong sister relationship they will hopefully have later.
- Their actual friends
My elementary-aged daughter seems to have friend drama earlier than I ever thought could be possible. She is only in second grade! I am floored by some of the things she comes home crying about and it breaks my heart to see how some of these girls can treat each other at only 7 years old. I started out praying for my daughter to find better friends, but bottom line is… the girls she sees at school every day, will continue to be there going forward. I have started to pray for my daughter’s actual friends (even the not-so-good ones). One by one, I made a list and pray for these girls and their families. I pray for their circumstances and situations and ask God to work in their lives as well as in my daughters.
- Their teachers/coaches
This is a BIG one. Your kid’s teachers and coaches are the next biggest influencer in their life besides YOU. You should be praying for these people as often as you can. Praying for your child’s school teachers, specials teachers, sports coaches, swimming lesson instructor, Sunday school teachers, daycare providers, babysitters, bus drivers… you name it. These people all have some sort of authority over your child, pray for them individually, even if they don’t know their name. Ask your child for a list of their teachers, write them down and go through them one-by-one. Pray for wisdom and solid direction over them as they teach over your child.
- Their room
This may sound a little radical, but I’m all about the radical. Pray over your child’s rooms. Walk their rooms, pray for the safety and security of their four walls, pray that God’s angels will protect any evil from coming in, pray that all who walk through their door is of goodness and righteousness. Pray for their shoes, that will carry them through their days, and protect them. Pray for their books and toys that will invoke thought and imagination. Pray for their bed and God’s peace over them as they sleep and wake. Just spend 15 minutes in their room and you will find so much to specifically pray over your child.
- Over their soul
This might sound a little nuts, but if there is anything you should be praying over your child above anything else – this is it. Praying over someone’s soul is powerful and extremely important. Even if you child is already a believer, you should be praying for the work of the Holy Spirit in their hearts. Even Paul himself, prayed over the souls of those he wrote letters to. In his letter to the Ephesians he says “I bow before the Father from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant power through his Spirit in your inner being.” You can do this anytime you want, but I have chosen to pray over may children’s souls while they are sleeping. I actually place my hand on their heart and pray for God’s softening and molding of their hearts. I pray for Him to prepare/build a dwelling place for the Spirit that is so strong they will never know a day without His love and power in their hearts.
In closing, these are just a handful of ways you can pray around and for your child. Really, the sky is the limit. You know your child better than anyone else – you may have more specific ways of praying over and around them. Regardless what it is, pray in as many ways as you can and you will have a mountain of God’s power working in and around their lives! Imagine if someone prayed all this over your life? What do you have to lose? “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8:3. The best gift you can give your child is the power of God prayerfully working in literally every aspectof their life.